Love letters are very sentimental things. Whether your partner is a man or a woman, no one is immune to the charms and cheesiness of a good old-fashioned love letter. After all, words are powerful tools to express your innermost thoughts and feelings. Love letter writing is a great way to further strengthen your relationship and even release your inner Shakespeare. Here are some simple tips for writing the perfect love letter.
- List Them Down
If there are things you like about your partner but haven’t had the time to say it in person, now is the time to list them down one by one. It may sound cheesy, but your partner has insecurities too, just like any average person. Robert Sternberg, an American Psychologist mentioned that “The three components of love are intimacy, passion, and commitment. Intimacy encompasses feelings of attachment, closeness, connectedness, and bondedness. Passion encompasses drives connected to both limerance and sexual attraction. Commitment encompasses, in the short term, the decision to remain with another, and in the long term, the shared achievements and plans made with that other person.”
They would appreciate it if you listed down the things that you love about them. It also assures them that they are loved for being who they are despite the insecurities they perceive themselves to have.
- Just Be Yourself
I know you have heard this statement too many times before, but there’s really no other way to write a more genuine and honest letter. Even if you think your writing is terrible, you do not have to go out of your way to copy someone else’s writing style. According to Diana Rabb, PhD, “Writing passionate or sexy letters is one of the many ways a couple can be romantic with one another. Sometimes it’s easier to jot down our feelings without being distracted by looking at the object of our affection.”
You only have to be yourself and trust that your partner will appreciate you for being that way instead of ripping off Nicholas Sparks. You can quickly tell if someone is genuine or not.
- Prepare If You Must
Teachers can usually tell when their students crammed a major requirement at the last minute. Similarly, some lovers can perceive if a love letter was rushed. Take time to prepare if you must.
Not everyone is a poet. Even the best ones take time and effort to perfect their craft. If you really love your partner, you should invest the necessary amount of time and effort to make the best love letter you can give.
- Sum It Up Nicely
There are many ways to give an excellent conclusion to your love letter. You can state your hopes and dreams for you and your partner in the future, or you can confess what the relationship and their love means to you. It is entirely okay to be cheesy, as long as what you write down is what you feel inside genuinely. Your partner will reflect on your closing words for a long time so don’t even try to put something fake to appease them. Dr. John D. Moore wrote in one of his articles, “The last part of your note should be simple and succinct. It’s OK to be cute or draw something memorable– like a heart or smiley face. The idea of the summary is to jot down a few sentences that weave together your motivations for writing the piece. It also reaffirms your love.”
You can put so many things in your love letter that you do not usually say or admit in person. If you are the shy type, love letters are a great way to express your hidden artistic side.
Ultimately, it is the thought that counts. Your love letter is only as good as the thoughts, emotions, and heart that you put into it. There’s nothing more to prepare you for this except to just do it, grab a pen, and pour your heart out.